Comments on One Sweet Family - Our Adoption Adventure: More harm than good? Adoption and the church.

Karin, I think what you are trying to do is a gre...

2010-11-07T20:20:30.014-05:00

Karin,

I think what you are trying to do is a great thing. There are just a few things you need to think about though. Mostly in the way you are looking at/wording what you are aiming to do.

You say that if they choose to give their children up for adoption, you will try to "improve" their lives and they will benefit from a "fresh start" and "better life". After losing a child to adoption, life cannot be "improved", you do not get a "better life" or a "fresh start".

You do not move on with your life to do any of those things. You can learn to live without your child, you can rise above and still have many blessings in your life, but adoption is not one of the blessings, nor is it because you are not raising your child ~ it is in spite of the fact you are living without your child.

My take on adoption is that it is a way to bless a...

2010-11-05T20:45:32.964-04:00

My take on adoption is that it is a way to bless and lift EVERYONE involved. For us we have felt called to minister to our daughter's birth parents and to fund a ministry for birth parents so that IF they choose to place their children for adoption THEIR lives can be improved as well as the child's...in this way we can break a cycle.

Our church already has a program for pregnant girls who want to parent...we hope to help bridge the gap with those who choose adoption for their children but who also would benefit from a "fresh start" and "better life"

Thank you for this...spot on. ~A reunited adoptee...

2010-09-24T19:12:21.540-04:00

Thank you for this...spot on.

~A reunited adoptee

Thank you for this - as a first mother, I have lo...

2010-09-24T19:08:38.417-04:00

Thank you for this - as a first mother, I have longed to hear these words from the lips of an adoptive parent. As Susie said, if Jesus was with us today, He would be speaking for family preservation, just as he always has.

AMEN!!! Great post ~ full of truth. If Jesus was...

2010-09-23T23:39:27.134-04:00

AMEN!!! Great post ~ full of truth. If Jesus was walking on earth today, he would be speaking for family preservation, not for tearing families apart.

Susie

As an adult adoptee and a Christian it is refreshi...

2010-09-23T23:31:35.131-04:00

As an adult adoptee and a Christian it is refreshing to read this post. It seems like the churches "help" for pregnant moms is nothing but to "help themselves" to her baby. I saw a poster tonight for an event called "Orphan for a Night" encouraging people to raise funds for orphan care. Unfortunately, it is a truth in advertising issue (all of adoption) because the money raised will NOT go toward true orphan care but to adoption marketing.

This was a great post. This is what my Rebekah tal...

2010-09-23T23:22:13.268-04:00

This was a great post. This is what my Rebekah talks about all the time. I am the birth mom to her sweet boy Tyrus. She talks about how the worst part of adoption is seeing familys torn apart.
Anyway, I was very blessed just looking at the pictures in your header. Your family is so precious. Thanks for visiting my blog and taking the time to write. It means so much to me.

Rebekah

Something else that is really dangerous w/ the chu...

2010-09-23T10:31:25.638-04:00

Something else that is really dangerous w/ the church pushing adoption, (and I posted about this on an Ethiopian forum where someone was so excited about their church's push) is that sure, they get all kinds of folks interested in adoption; let's help those poor orphans, and what happens is that many do jump on board... but what do they want? the healthy infant. And internationally, that is not where the need is. So you have all this extra demand for healthy babies (in part because of the CHURCH's push) and what happens when there is more demand than supply? Corrupt things. Things that the church would shudder to know they innocently played a hand in. That parents wooed by the church to adopt these "orphaned" babies would shudder (hopefully) to know that they had a hand in. There are a lot of misconceptions out there that are NOT helping keep families together and in some cases are the VERY reasons families are being torn apart. God does not love this kind of adoption.

We need to get on board with the organizations that are sponsoring FAMILIES, so they can stay together. In Ethiopia, a great one is Yezelalem Minch. :)

At last!!!!Please, please convince everyone else o...

2010-09-21T21:22:39.590-04:00

At last!!!!Please, please convince everyone else of the sense and reality of what you are saying here.Adoption hurts, it scars for life, there are alternatives to keep families together where ever possible.
Adoption is not a solution to abortion.

Here here! Well said. And who would have thought ...

2010-09-21T15:17:15.264-04:00

Here here! Well said.
And who would have thought just loving someone could really make a difference (said sarcastically).

Our agency has started helping the orphanage in Ethiopia so the children can stay in their birth country. They have a home for single mothers where they offer help and assistance, even mentors.

I've seen posts recently talking about there being so many foster kids per state and about 50 times that amount of churches. It's all in encouraging churches to step forward and embrace adoption. And in a way I think that every church should, but that doesn't mean that even one family in that church is meant to adopt it just means they are meant to help and through their help maybe every child waiting for a forever family in their state can find a home.