Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Two Children Looking for a New Adoptive Home.



I have pictures of these children but do not feel comfortable posting publicly.  Go "like" www.facebook.com/secondchanceadoptions to see them.  And pray for these kids!



Elise (Caucasian) is an adorable 11 year old girl who was born in the U.S. Her biological parents were neglectful & abusive, so she was permanently removed from them @ one yr. old and officially adopted by her current family at the age of 3. Biological parent visits were state required/mandated for three years and were very upsetting/ disruptive for Elise. As a result, she holds major resentment towards her adoptive family. So a new adoptive home is being sought.

She is the only adopted child in the home and resents that. Her resentment has built over the years, and she prefers to see herself as “the black sheep” of the family. holidays. She has developed a habit of resisting the family, and it does not seem to be fixable with them.

Elise does extremely well with all other families. She has been in extended respite care for months at a time, and does great. Her parents want to see her happy all the time, so they have made this very difficult decision.

Elise is wonderful with animals. She loves horses, so she needs to go to a home where 4H or riding classes can be offered.

Her family wants her in a home where God and Christ are important.

Due to the state laws, we are not able to place her in NY, CO, IL, CT, MA, or DE. If you would like to receive additional information on her, please contact us at secondchance @ wiaa.org


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Matthew (Caucasian) is an 8 year old boy, in third grade, who was originally adopted here in the U.S. with 3 biological siblings both older and younger than he is. His adoptive family also has 5 birth children, also both older and younger than Matthew. Matthew was adopted at age 3 after having been in and out of his birth home. His birth parents were drug users and neglectful of the children. The children were left to care for themselves and often lived without heat.

Matthew has had therapy by well known counselors who are also authors of books on RAD, but it has not helped. His parents are feeling very worn out and have run out of energy in raising him.
Matthew does great in school, in respite, and at relatives’ homes. His only behavior problems are at home. The family has had in-home therapy which has not helped at all.

Before Matthew’s adoption was final, there were several years of visits with the birth parents and those visits did not go well. After therapy and counseling, his therapists conclude that Matthew possibly has a deep-seated anger and resentment towards this first adoptive family who “took” him from his birth family.

When Matthew is in bed at night, and a little bit during the day at home, he wets himself continually. He also urinates into various places in his bedroom. Write to us to learn more details about this.

He does not have a medical problem relating to urination.

Since Matthew does so well in other settings, it is felt that he would do much better in a new home with a smaller family where he could get attention . Matthew loves art projects and likes playing with legos and taking piano lessons. He is not greatly into sports.

Because he is such a great little guy with everyone outside the home, it is believed that he would thrive in a new home, probably with only a couple other children. It is recommended that Matthew probably be the youngest child in the home.

Due to state laws, we are not able to place him in CO, IL, CT, MA, or DE. If you would like to receive additional information on him, please contact us at secondchance@wiaa.org .

Legal fees and other fees will amount to $5000-$6000. If your family qualifies for the adoption tax credit, you should recover all the costs spent.