We actually had to call in to the court this time and "appear" before the judge. Since we finalized in another state we did not have to appear in person thankfully. The state she was born in is 12 hours away! It was more emotional that I thought it would be even though we were not there in person. For some adoptive parents it is a day filled with joy and even parties. Not for me. I know what this finalization means for her first family and that breaks my heart. How can rejoice and party in the face of another's pain?
Of course the day was also happy - but mostly for the reason that ND is now fully and legally entitled to all that a natural child of ours would be. This is what E wanted. For her to be a full member of our family. And now she is and for that we are eternally grateful.