Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Adoption Downer.

I'm pretty sure that many would classify me as an adoption downer.  I mean, come on now, I often talk about how hard adoption is, how badly I feel for my children's birth families, how I wish there were no need for adoption, how adoption really should be a last resort, etc. etc.  

And the truth is?  All of those things I say ARE true.  But none of them negate the joy I feel for my children or the love I have for their first mothers.  Or how much I love that adoption brought them into my life.  How strongly I feel connected to them even tho we share no blood connection.  How I don't care that our skin does not match.  How I adore each moment with them even when it's 3:30am and ND is screaming.  Or bedtime and KJ is telling me "No! Oh crap, mama!" for the twentieth time that evening.  None of the 'hard' things about adoption matter when I see them.  But it does make me appreciate them oh-so-much more.  I truly do not think any mother could appreciate or love her child more.  

For me the way in which they came to me just makes me love them that much more - not less!  The hard parts make it better - not worse!  The fact that they have another woman's eyes, hair or cheek bones doesn't make me sad - it makes me happy.  It makes me realize what a gift I have and how I am loving them for both of us through our day-to-day lives.

So yah, sometimes I am a downer.  But it is for all the right reasons.  I never want to take these perfect and priceless gifts for granted. Never.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

TWO Thanksgivings!

This weekend we head to my in-laws in Philadelphia for the weekend, then on Tuesday night we head to my mom's in Providence.  We get two Thanksgivings!

When KJ was little I had this ridiculous turkey get-up that my dad had got him.  I wish I still had it so ND could endure the same torture as her brother. ;)  Maybe I should find something similar. I'm pretty sure I gave it to my friend whose son is now around ND's age.



Tomorrow I am taking the day off to go to Philly early and shop with my sis-in-law.  She hates to shop but hates her job more so she took the day off too.  A good compromise if you ask me.  I have yet to buy even ONE Christmas gift.  Oh wait.  That's a lie.  I bought Toy Story 3 for my kids, but that is it.  Blah.  I really don't like Christmas shopping.  I'm not very organized about it and I always feel like I'm forgetting something.  I'm using a lot of coupons and Grou*pons this year to save money too.  

Do you have big plans for the holiday?

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Orphan Sunday

Today was Orphan Sunday.  Again days like these stir up so many emotions within me - so much to do, but *how* to do it?

I'm still getting some really good feedback on the post I wrote here about how the church responds to the "orphan crisis". No one denies that there is indeed a crisis.  But how we go about responding is of just as much importance as acknowledging the problem is there.  So many things create an orphan crisis - what are we doing about them to prevent the crisis from growing?

AIDS

Famine

Lack of income

Lack of capital

DEBT