I'm sure many of you are wondering just what has been going on with us regarding this second adoption. I often post about how things are going on, but have been tentative to give details for many reasons. For the two women that we spoke with last November and December I, of course, wanted to guard their privacy. There was no reason to go waving their business around the internet and it really annoys me when people do. I don't need to know every detail of your phone calls, texts, her problems, and yours. And if you do that please, please make your blog private! Theirs is not your story to tell. End of rant.
Anyway, yes, we were tentatively "matched" with two different mothers back in Nov/Dec and both chose to parent. It was fine. Really. And I feel that we played an important role in their decision making at that time. I still get emails now and then from both and it has been a blessing to be available. Sometimes in adoption you're not there just to adopt a child, but to play a larger role. Perhaps someone just needs a friend or a listening ear. You just never know.
It has been tiring and emotionally draining. I mean I work all day long in a social services agency. With all that this adoption journey entails it's a bit like bringing work home with me. But not in a bad way. I never want to make this sound like it has been a negative experience because it has not.
Both of the situations I just mentioned came through our attorney. I also have been reaching out in other ways and we have submitted our home study for a waiting child in another state. That can take months to even hear anything so we just wait, not expecting much. I do speak with the worker about once a week just to remind her that we are here! I'm sure I am a pain in the butt, but whatever. I have made it clear that if another family is better for this little one than that is fine. But it has not come to that point yet and she plans to present our home study to the child's "team" of workers as a very interested family. So we shall see....
I also, through a friend of a friend, have registered as a family interested/available to adopt a child with Down syndrome. Within a week we got a call asking if we would be available for a child being born within the next few months who is African American and will be a child with DS. There are some other things going on there with a family who originally matched with the mom but then backed out and then came back. We are waiting to hear what may or may not happen with this situation as well.
As you can see there are many things happening. And I.am.tired. But good, and BLESSED. I cannot say enough how good God has been to us. How we feel so blessed to just have our lives available to these families and children. We know He knows the next steps for our family. So now we just wait. (The hard part.)