Our Christmas was wonderful but very busy. We traveled out to Ohio and then back to Philly before getting home to NY. It was great to see family but I think we were more tired when we got back! Here is our family Christmas picture that we sent out this year -->
We are still plugging away on our next adoption. We have been matched twice in two months and both times mom has chosen to parent. We are not sad in the least and I am happy to have a ministry of this sort where I can honestly tell a mom that it is OK to change her mind and really mean it! I keep telling my friends that we will never have another little one because I tell these women it is OK to choose a different route... and then they do! LOL
God is so good. And I am so happy to be able to talk with these mom's considering adoption and give them an honest assessment of their options. They DON'T have to choose adoption. There may be a way for them to parent. They need to know this. Too often I think the industry that is agency/private adoption pushes these women too soon in to making a decision and then they are left feeling that there is no way back. As crazy as it is, I am happy to have gone with an attorney this time because WE are the ones speaking to the women, WE know what is really being said, WE don't have to have a mediator or someone between she and us. I know what is really going on with them. It is a good feeling. Although it is challenging and hard, it is well worth it.
I would not recommend this route to a first-time adoptive family because I just don't think you know enough the first time around. You really have to work hard to educate yourself. Have you ever even spoken to a woman/family before who have relinquished a child? Have you taken the time to speak with other families who have adopted before? Have you spoken with a family who had a failed placement?
These are all just thoughts I have had recently and I am sure there will be more! What an adventure 2010 has been already. I can't wait to see what the rest of the year has in store!