Friday, August 21, 2009

Open Adoption Roundtable #5

How has open adoption changed you? How are you different because of the presence of open adoption in your life?

The most obvious answer is that I have my son. But he is also someone else's son and that has changed me in many ways. I look at him often and see how he looks like S. And then I wonder how she is doing. Then I worry about KJ and how he hasn't known her yet...

I think about how we are all so connected in this life. Sounds like something out of a New Age handbook but it is true. He is mine but he is also hers. I remember her saying to me at placement that he was my firstborn son and also hers. And me telling her he would always be her firstborn.

We are connected to her for life and that will not change whether or not we ever see or hear from her again. The same is true for KJs first dad too. It is a strange and wonderful phenomenon to be so enmeshed in the life of another. Someone you don't even know but God has put you together for a reason. Even if you don't know what it is...


1 comment:

Lavender Luz said...

You speak so aptly of the interconnections, both the known ones and the unknown ones.