I made all this very clear to Kevin even before we were married. I love NY. We are not leaving. I am staying put. We did move around a bit after our marriage, but always within an hour of NYC. Now we own a house. We are right on the train line to NYC. On the border of a state park. Close to major highways. Our town is beautiful. Not over populated. No chance for extreme growth (read: no more houses unless you own at least 2 acres.) We have a farmer's market in the summer and fall. And the schools are excellent. But in a town that has little to no diversity. Again, bleh!
Don't get me wrong. We love our town. Our neighbors are great. Everyone is very friendly and accepting. We get no odd or dirty looks at our blended family. Folks are just plain nice. But I worry about KJ and his siblings. Will they be the only children of color in their class? Will they want other kids around them that look like them?
We attend a very diverse church about 20 minutes away and spend a lot of our time there during the week too. None of our "life" is within our town. All of our friends live outside of our town. So it's not like KJ is not spending time with people who look like him. It's just not in our community of residence. Eh! I am sure I am thinking too much... excellent schools vs. diversity vs. moving vs. not so great schools.
Where I work is close to where we live and is the community where our church is. Lots and lots of diversity. We actually thought of moving here when we bought our house. But the schools are less than stellar, there is violence (not extreme), lack of community investment and involvement, and even increasing gang activity. Nice, right? I would still like to move there and invest in this community. BUT - what about my kids? Is it worth it for them? I don't want them to grow up sheltered in some posh mostly white community. But I don't want their education to suffer either. (I know some of you are thinking "homeschool" well, I think we've been down that road before. And for me it is a "heck, no.") ;)
So anyway, for me it is just one more thing to wrestle with. I know God will make the answer clear. But for now I just like giving myself one more thing to ponder...