Sometimes it is so hard to be a part of this adoption "triad" (birth family, adoptive family, adoptee). You just don't know what you *can* say or what you *shouldn't* say. Who is going to be offended? Who is going to be hurt?
Let me enlighten you as to what got my thoughts going in this way today. I came across two articles/blog posts regarding adoption. Of course you must take all these things with a grain of salt. One person's opinion is not every person's opinion. This one is a blog post about coercion in adoption and how "all adoptions are not coerced." Well, no, they are not. But are some? Yes. Should we forget those that were in favor of the "good" adoptions? Is any adoption "good"?
Secondly, I was reading this opinion post about the wording used in adoption. She espouses that you shouldn't use the term "give up" but "make an adoption plan" instead. Sounds OK, right? Well, no... read the comments following. Apparently by using more polite terminology we are all trying to cover up the pain of a woman surrendering her child???
It's all too much for me! Oy!