Sunday, March 29, 2009

KJ on the move!

Well Mr. KJ has just taking off running now that he has mastered the fine art of walking.  He has gotten so much steadier on his feet in just the last week.  Less falling, more walking.  I think the cutest part is that he now can run over to us and grab our legs.  It is too cute!  Even when he does something wrong, how can you resist that?

Here's a video of him trying to make a "piggy sound".  It was a pretty funny first go at "oink". :)

KJ the piggy... or something similar? from Andi on Vimeo.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Please pray...

For this dear family ... I only happened upon their blog last week, and don't even remember how.  But the Lord knows they must need as much prayer as they can get right now.  So I encourage all of you to pray too!

Sunday, March 15, 2009


FINALLY got it on video... Don't mind my messy house and the dinner all over KJ's shirt!

KJ Walks! from Andi on Vimeo.

Friday, March 13, 2009

We have a walker!

On Wednesday, at 10 mos. and 2 weeks and 2 days old, K.J. took his first steps! He's taken many more since then and it is the cutest thing I think I've ever seen. He kind of gallops almost as he tries to keep his balance. Of course everyone keeps asking me if I've gotten it on video yet and the answer is no, not just yet! I plan to keep the camera glued to my hand this weekend, however, so we'll see!

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Adoption Timeline.

So, many folks want to know when you started the process, how long it took, when you were approved, when you were placed, etc. etc. so I thought I would jot some of it down here. All in all I don't remember all of the exact dates. Some people have super-duper memory or something because I see a list of very exact things, with very exact dates! Well, we took the "fly by the seat of your pants" approach to adoption I guess, because I was not so... well, exact! But generally speaking here's our journey:

  • Winter 2007 Begin to talk about "starting a family".
  • March 2007 Our one month of TTC (too much stress!) - decide to pray about how God wants us to begin our family.
  • Spring/Summer 2007 Make decision to adopt.
  • July 2007 Call Bethany Christian Services in NJ and send in preliminary application; assigned to our social worker "J".
  • August 8, 2007 First meeting at agency (receive full application packet).
  • August 2007 Fill out tons of paperwork (including dreaded "matching form") and return it by beginning of September.
  • September/October 2007 Individual interviews @ agency.
  • October 2007 Get fingerprints done
  • November 2007 My fingerprints get returned because they are "smudged" - have to have them redone. K's fingerprints cleared.
  • January 15, 2008 Final visit by J to our home. Home study complete; just waiting on my fingerprint clearance.
  • January 28, 2008 Fingerprint clearance received @ agency. Officially "waiting".
  • February 2008 Matched with Birth-mother (on hold for 4 weeks).
  • March 2008 Birth-mother changes mind, back in the "pool".
  • April 17, 2008 Profile sent to North Carolina Bethany office because of need for families open to full-African American infants.
  • April 23, 2008 KJ born in Raleigh, NC.
  • April 24, 2008 Get the "call". When can we get to NC?
  • May 2, 2008 After TPR meet our son in NC.
  • May 7, 2008 ICPC approved - leave for home!
Pics from our placement day in NC...

Forever a family!

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Adoptive mom guilt...

Do you ever get this? I do from time to time. I feel crappy that I have the gift of my son and that S does not have him anymore. Woe is me, right? Go ahead, you can tell me to just get over it. But seriously, should I? I don't think so. I think the thoughts of her give me such a deep appreciation for her and *our* son that I never want to stop feeling these feelings.

I get sick to my stomach when I read/hear folks saying stuff like "Oh, you've given this baby a better life" or "At least he will have the chance for this or that" or "Now at least he'll have a mommy and a daddy." WTHeck people? S would have made an excellent mother. She loved/loves him will all her heart! The decision she made - she made of her own volition. But that does not mean she would've been a bad mother. She did not have the support she needed, nor the means. But that doesn't make me a better mommy than she would've been. It just makes me different.