Friday, September 26, 2008

My blog list is growing!

I keep finding more and more blogs to "follow" and I LOVE IT! Most of my list are fellow transracial families. I love that. It makes me not feel so... well... different. God is so good! The internet isn't all bad.

Speaking of transracial adoption. I went back and looked over my old entries from our old blog. I found this gem from last August (2007):

"... I've been reading up a lot on trans-racial/interracial whatever you want to call it adopting. There is a fairly good chance that our child will not "look" like us and the world will wonder why. (Although I don't think it takes a genius to figure it out some people can just be ignorant and rude.) This makes me nervous, of course. I know that the Lord will give us the grace and strength to deal with it when the time comes. In more than one study researchers found that children who are adopted by parents of a different race actually adapt better than those who are adopted by parents of the same race. They found that these kids have no question that they were adopted (since they don't look like their parents) and therefore tend to deal with it earlier in life and basically get it over with. Well, who knows how accurate this actually is but I guess it offers some hope..."

So, now that we know for sure that our son does not "look like us" how have my fears played out? In many interesting and mostly entertaining ways actually. For instance, at two months old I took KJ to get his pictures professionally done. Next to us there was a mom and two young girls (probably about 8 and 5) who were Caucasian next to us waiting. As only a child can do the older girl looks at her mom and says, "That little boy is brown and his mommy is white. I don't understand how that can happen." (Gotta give her points for curiosity and bluntness.) To which her mom adeptly responded, "Well dear, let's talk about how that can happen. Maybe his daddy is brown or maybe he is adopted." Kuddos to mom for a good response and not shushing her daughter. It's nothing to be embarrassed about! I didn't say anything and acted like I didn't hear. But I thought it was a nice way for the mom to respond.

Yes, some folks have gawked or just given a curious glance. But the overwhelming response to our blended family has been positive. Many, many people want to come ooh and ahh over KJ (he is pretty darn cute!) and we don't mind. An online friend of mine once said that she believes that God has called some of us to transracial adoption as a way to be a witness for Him and break down some color barriers. May we only be worthy of being Christ's example...

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